In case you missed the memo… 60 is the new 40 and sex does get better with age!
We stopped fumbling around in the dark ages ago.
We accept the creases and folds (and anyway who cares).
We find beauty and sexy in realness, crave deeper intimacy, are open to wilder kinks and give more fucks about releasing stress than probably anything else.
Heading into the golden years is all about attitude and the good news is we get to have more sex for many more years, since we now live longer.
Did you know that women today spend the most part (30years+) of their lives in peri-menopause, menopause and post- menopause. We are living in an age where there are more women in menopause in human history - 1.2 billion in fact by 2030. So before you think you are done in that department or are too coy to talk about it - pass the lube and the dog!
Keeping your libido in check is good for your health and since you are likely to live longer you will want to keep your allure and sexual function as a physically active and sexually astute older women.
Why, because you can! Regardless of your experience level or relationship status.
So healthy pelvic floor muscles are a priority.
Cue: Order sexy lingerie, tidy the house and check your T-dog is next to the bed - it’s good for the Kegel’s.
(You wouldn’t want to be caught off guard if the moment happens, nor have a ridiculous excuse.)
If you expect to have a menopausal identity crisis know this, people are continuing to enjoy active sex lives well into their seventies and eighties, in fact 30% have sex twice a month.
How they do it? They keep it interesting and it turns out late-life sexuality is a real thing as is countering stereotypes and misconceptions about it.
Decreased sexual activity proves to be more about overall health and conflicting partnership factors, than aging. *
And as we know some erections malfunction in the moment, be sure that your dog won’t.
So garner that energy and focus, love your body and find freedom in your menopausal zest. It’s your partner, whether real or wondrously electric that counts, not age.
Key is to be open to it, share and be confident enough to explore and experiment to keep it fresh.
After all FFG (freshly fucked glow) is never going to be out of fashion in this day and age.
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Dr David Lee (UK Research Fellow at The University of Manchester’s School of Social Sciences)